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Gold_BBW 52F  
23 posts
3/11/2022 12:30 pm
First time hook up. Who pays?

You're meeting up to play for the first time in a Motel.
You stay the whole night and get acquainted so;- WHO PAYS??
The DOM DOMME MASTER MISTRESS should pay.
The willing SUB SLAVE should pay.
Go DUTCH. A 50/50 split.
Discuss it first and work it out.
Wait till the end and pay on satisfaction.


It is what it is.


Sydneysyder2021 49M

3/12/2022 3:27 am

I think it should be who ever instigates the meet.


rondiri 63M  
4310 posts
3/12/2022 11:43 am

While discussing it first has its merits,
I would pay, as the Master, just as I would buy the drinks or coffee or dinner for a first public meeting.
You're playing, I feel the Dominant should take the responsibility.

Of course, finances of the relationship, should have been discussed long before playing.


dw5234 69M
8 posts
3/12/2022 12:26 pm

Discuss it First


ridermantel 67M
8060 posts
3/12/2022 5:51 pm

Do the Rembrandt thing.


pinchanipple 59F
21 posts
3/13/2022 9:24 pm

Dom could before hand casually say "ill get the room". That is the opening for a discussion.


girlfriend916 51F
30 posts
3/14/2022 11:59 am

What is the Rembrandt thing?


girlfriend916 51F
30 posts
3/14/2022 12:00 pm

Glass ceiling is still intact, person with penis pays,
whether he is the sub or dom. xx


BDSMbedroomslave 44T
28 posts
3/15/2022 4:03 am

It should initially fall on the responsibility of the person who suggested meeting in said motel first.

I have had several 'married men' suggest it, and then say to me, book the hotel for me darling..... I am like, its your idea, i ain't putting the expense on my credit card just because your wife does the household finances each month

There best 'I am fake and heres how I confirm it' line is, I'll arrange a hotel and get back to you with the details.........days pass, weeks, then a month or so later they contact you again, and they talk to you like its the first time they've ever spoken to you...........the men on this site are specifically fans of that approach.

Once a hotel has been arranged and confirmed (ring ahead just to make sure they aren't pissing you about), then you can offer to contribute to the cost.


eagerlywanting 68M
75 posts
3/17/2022 5:44 am

Being the "First Time Play" it's the Master/Mistress's responsibility!


RiverJim 52M
16 posts
3/20/2022 2:25 am

Whomever is in charge should always be paying. Even if a submissive/slave were to suggest a meeting, the decision ultimately is mine. I also pay for the meals we share, and the entertainment we enjoy. Everything , every time. If a can't pay for a "motel" room and a meal, perhaps I'd need to re-examine my station. Feels wrong just thinking about requiring a subordinate/subservient to pay my way. Along those lines, I also do not accept gifts.


132280847 47M

3/21/2022 8:20 am

Elle paie un homme, un vrai homme qui la satisfait et la fait bien s'amuser
Et le plus beau c'est que le sexe vient du fond du coeur


daddytaz6 54M
25 posts
3/21/2022 5:04 pm

discuss it first


fuku19 61M
42 posts
3/22/2022 6:38 am

they want me so they pay


Ride_My_Face_ 51M
181 posts
3/22/2022 4:38 pm

Motels and hotels are gross.


Yern2lic 65M
1013 posts
3/23/2022 5:37 am

The dom, it’s the right thing to do, after all, leaders always take charge


BlkCock2018 55M
1 post
3/24/2022 3:02 am

I do... And glad to do so...


aldompdx 60M
1056 posts
3/24/2022 2:13 pm

Pays for WHAT? (assuming 1 on 1, not group).
1. The patient always pays the counselor.
2. Prior to consent, people operate as equals. They should meet first in public, and pay for food equally.
(a) if long distance -- they should cover their own expenses to travel mid-way & rent separate rooms. Private interaction should be in the room of the person taking the superior role. If staying at different establishments, the person taking the inferior role should have their car at that location and be prepared to quickly leave.
(b) If local -- Private interaction should be at the abode of the person taking the superior role. The person taking the inferior role should have their car at that location and be prepared to quickly leave.


mzmarvel666 48T
23 posts
4/3/2022 3:03 pm

Dinner is usually on me......or in me.


oddboyt 19M
46 posts
4/10/2022 4:05 am

Pre plan that all out, Motels are fairly cheap for the night either way so it should be an easy pay either way.


timmy3219 60M
29 posts
4/13/2022 2:42 am

I personaly would pay if I was staying there anyway, I wouldn't ask for a chip in, and agree with oddboyt.


BrookeStorme 35F
17 posts
5/23/2022 7:25 am

I may be old fashioned, but I believe that the man should always pay. Not matter what from the dinner, to drinks, to a hotel room, to any props and or toys you two decide are a must. Not only do I believe a man should pay… I am secretly grading what he does and does not buy. Flowers are extra credit points. Even more soo if they are favorites of mine and/or go with a theme.


Hitthehole69 54M
1 post
5/25/2022 2:53 pm

Hook up implies two or more agreeable on the meet up to hook so some kind of light agreement should be on the table unless hooking up at parking lot, vehicle, outside, destination talk about? Hooking up is just meeting in person to move forward on mutual feelings that are new due to human contact.


thickmeatwillly 48M
75 posts
6/2/2022 5:57 am

definitely discuss first



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